"This book is a must read in today's world where, thankfully, ‘nice' is finally getting the respect it deserves. NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST offers brilliant tools and savvy advice for making ‘nice' work for you in business and in life. Nice girls do finish first, and this is their ‘how-to' manual."
-Linda Kaplan Thaler,
CEO of The Kaplan Thaler Group and bestselling author of The Power of Nice
Schwartz proves that we don't have to be bitches to be taken seriously in the world: in business and in our personal lives. The more we read books like this, the more it will sink into our brains that we have been programmed to please."
-Nina Disesa,
chairman of McCann Erickson New York and author of Seducing the Boys Club
Friendliness is a virtue, but being too friendly is regarded as being submissive and going along with what others want. Women know they are "nice girls" who are really people-pleasers when they always find it difficult to be expressive or they get stepped on by others. These kinds of "nice girls" constantly mold themselves to be liked and often do not get taken seriously. So does this mean "nice girls" have to bare their claws to keep the cruel world from crushing them before they even know it?
"No" says Daylle Deanna Schwartz a self-empowerment coach, proud self-proclaimed former doormat and author of NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST: Getting the Results You Want and the Respect You Deserve...While Still Being Liked (McGraw-Hill; March 2009). "Women do not have to be demanding divas to get what they want - they can be assertive and still be liked and respected."
Schwartz's book is for every woman who has felt lousy about herself for being too nice, after getting taken advantage of or feeling used. And it is for women who want to feel empowered without contradicting their natural instincts by behaving aggressively or unkindly. NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST is not about how to get ahead at work, though it addresses that subject. This book provides step-by-step methods for creating a total lifestyle that helps tame people-pleasing habits and guides women on how to take control of their lives. It provides information to manage anger and frustration to get better responses, approach situations with confidence and techniques on how smiling and speaking softly can get a point across. The book also focuses on setting boundaries with demanding parents, staying in control of romantic relationships, handling work situations more effectively, getting better results from customer service representatives, responding to unacceptable conduct and more!
Ultimately NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST is the direct opposite of self-empowerment books that encourages women to develop a no-nonsense personality. It illustrates that women can be professional with a smile, and still get taken seriously.
About the Author:
Daylle Deanna Schwartz M.S. is a self-described former doormat, author of 10 books, speaker and self-empowerment counselor. Her workshops and individual counseling teach techniques used to shed her doormat status and turn her life around. Schwartz changed her people-pleasing ways when she became a pioneer in the music industry as the first white female rapper and first woman to start an independent record label on her own. She has appeared on more than 300 television and radio shows nationwide including "Howard Stern," "Oprah," "Good Morning America," "CNN," "Inside Edition" and "The Montel Williams Show." Schwartz has been quoted as an expert in publications such as Cosmopolitan, The New York Times, New York Newsday, Women's World, Marie Claire, Lifetime.com and more. She writes a blog called Lessons from a Recovering DoorMat and currently resides in New York City
NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST: Getting the Results You Want and the Respect You Deserve...While Still Being Liked by Daylle Deanna Schwartz McGraw-Hill; March 2009; Trade Paperback; $16.95; ISBN: 10: 0-07-160907-5; 13: 978-0-07-160907-4.
Suggested Interview Questions for
The author of
NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST
1. What inspired you to write NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST?
2. Do you really think women, especially young ones, still feel a need to please in order to be accepted? Didn't the women's empowerment movement change that?
3. What would you say to women whose religion or spiritual beliefs teach that they should be nice to everyone?
4. What is your response to the old statement that says "nice guys finish last?"
5. Why do you believe that women should smile while being assertive to get what they want?
6. Please provide specific examples of how a woman can handle a difficult situation and still be nice.
7. If a "nice girl" has already been taken advantage of because of her "door mat" personality by family, friends and co-workers, how can she turn her persona into a "nice girl" who is respected by all?
8. What do you want readers to take with them after reading NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST?
